Dear Prime Minister
As a business owner and operator, I am not legally allowed to discriminate against gay staff, nor am I allowed to discriminate against gay clients. Fortunately, this isn’t an issue for me, but as a business operator, I need to know that my civic leaders are following the same rules which apply to me. Sadly, even in 2013, it appears that they’re not.
In a week where:
- the Parramatta Lord Mayor was publicly embarrassed (read: online petition and social media responses) into making a written apology to GLBT support group Twenty10 after they were asked to take down this banner from their stand at the Rediscover the River event
- Parramatta independent councillor Paul Garrard referred to ‘the gays’, and suggested Twenty10 was ‘semi-political’ and likened them to a Right to Life group, and
- two people became ex-candidates for Bob Katter’s Australian Party following their own homophobic statements
it seems clear to me that what we need is some leadership from the top to reinforce to the public that it truly is okay to be gay.
I do believe that the public in general are looking for leadership on this issue. For many, many years now, we have had anti-discrimination laws letting us know what we can and can’t do, and yet we still have political aspirants and leaders ignoring these laws altogether while the majority of good folk understand the reasons for them and happily act in accordance with them. Indeed, many of us would happily act just the same, even without those laws!!
This may, or may not be, your last year as prime minister of this great country, but what if it was? What legacy would you like to leave? What if you were the prime minister who legislated for same-sex marriage? The prime minister who publicly said to the rest of the country, ‘It’s okay to be gay’? Wouldn’t that be a great legacy to leave?
Think back over our earlier prime ministers – what legacies did they leave? Gough Whitlam’s was education reform. John Howard’s was gun control. What will yours be? The misogyny statement? Surely you can do better than that …
The bulk of us ordinary Joes are quite happy not to discriminate, but we need leadership on this issue. If our governments are allowed to discriminate, then it’s not really fair on the rest of us, is it?
So how about it, Julia? How about legalising same-sex marriage? What a great legacy to leave this country!
Not a religious issue
This is a government registration/legislation issue, not a religious one. If any particular church is happy to unite gay couples, then good on them – I’m sure their congregation will swell quite quickly. (And congratulations to the Maple Leaf Lutheran Church of Seattle, WA, for their wonderfully embracing attitude! Like you, Julia, I’m an atheist, but it warms the cockles of my little heart to see a church embracing diversity the way this one does.)
If a church would rather not marry gay couples, they should be allowed to decline. But our government should not be allowed to refuse gay couples to marry in the same way as I am not allowed to refuse service to a gay person. If I, as a business operator, am not allowed to discriminate against gay people, then why should our government?
Positives of same-sex marriage
The effect on mental health issues across the country would have to be positive – how many young and middle aged people have mental health issues because they’ve felt forced to suppress who they really are? How many of our elderly are coming to the end of sad, repressed lives because they couldn’t be who they were? How many young people commit suicide because they’re ashamed of their sexuality?
The effect on the economy of legalising same-sex marriage would have to be positive. An increase in weddings across the country would surely help stimulate all sections of the service industry!
Legalising same-sex marriage would help increase tolerance and understanding of many other sorts of diversity across society, and this can only be a good thing, can’t it?
It would also allow the children of gay couples to grow up in the same legally recognised environment that children of many heterosexual couples have the privilege of growing up in. If their parents remain unmarried, then it’s a parental choice, it’s about freedom of choice, rather than having their parents treated as second class citizens.
Australia’s place in the world
Legalising same-sex marriage would help bring Australia into line with other countries across the world as they progressively legalise same-sex marriage. Please, it took us long enough to introduce a carbon tax and ratify the Kyoto Protocol: Finland was 20 years ahead of us on a carbon tax and five years ahead of us on ratifying the Kyoto Protocol, despite the fact both countries signed the Kyoto Protocol on 29 April 1998!
As an Australian citizen, it would be really nice to be at the front of the pack on this one, rather than being embarrassed into it by the rest of the world. I mean, seriously, Spain and Argentina are already there – what the hell is our problem?!
Part of a growing demographic
Before I go, you need to know that no, I’m not gay. I’m straight, and have been married to a wonderful, caring man for three decades.
I’m simply part of the growing demographic which believes that it would be nice if the many wonderful gay people and gay couples we know and care about could have the same opportunity for marriage that we have enjoyed. That’s all.
So, Julia? Are you up for it? How about it, hey? How about making the legalisation of same-sex marriage your gift to Australia in 2013?